Failure has a bad reputation. The fear of failing can keep some people from even trying to succeed at all. I say that not only should you not fear failure, but that you should embrace it. When it comes to dating and trying to meet people, if you aren't failing very much, then you aren't trying enough. My goal is to show people that failing is not that big a deal.
I decided to do a mingle experiment to explore this concept.
Ask for phone numbers from interesting women that I meet during a given day, until I get turned down.
For seven days in a row.
*I have to ask women for numbers that I sincerely want to see again. No forcing it.
*I have to ask someone I just met or don't know. No using a "ringer" that I already know.
*I have to keep going until I fail once per day, no matter how many times I am successful.
*I have to ask until I fail for seven straight days.
Note: I will not be discussing any successful attempts that I have during this process. This study is about the failures...
As usual I will be risking my own reputation to help and entertain people. Enjoy...
(Day 3--The Public Library)
I was in the public library today and I saw a woman working there that I had never seen before. So, of course I decided to try talk to her and see what her story was.
There was an older, library veteran looking lady sitting at the same desk as the one I wanted to talk to. When I was younger I would have let this kind of obstacle stop me from trying to make anything happen. Not anymore.
I found out that she lived about 30 minutes away, but it was in a town that I went to often. We talked about library things for a few minutes, and I finally got to mentioning something about us getting together sometime. She seemed to like the idea. I asked her what she liked to do in her town, etc. etc. and said again that we should get together sometime. There was a different reaction this time, though. She said that the library had a policy that employees couldn't hang out with library patrons. Killing me.
I did have a feeling that she may have been receptive to the idea of hanging out if A)They didn't have the rule against it and B) If the older, veteran librarian wasn't sitting right there listening in. This may have scared her out of giving me her number. If I had a nickle for every time I was foiled by a librarian...
Before I left I did something that I almost never do. I left her my business card just in case she wanted to secretly get in touch with me later. I know, I am a terrible influence and a corrupter of library rules. Hey, nobody's perfect. Usually when I am unsuccessful I will let it go. In this case, though, the possibility that she might be interested made me at least want to give her a way to get in touch with me. It's not anything that I will count on, but I wanted to give this poor girl a chance.
Hey, if you are feeling like someone might be interesting, don't let obstacles like scary looking librarians stop you from trying to see them again sometime. Definitely don't let the fear of being overheard get in your way. Take a few risks. Be casual and see what happens. No big deal.
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