I recently received the following question from a reader in New Jersey:
Dear Mingle Master--My question is a pretty shallow one, but also important to me. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now and Christmas is coming up. I want to get him a nice gift, but I'm just not sure what. I want to find something sentimental but I am always looking for good suggestions!
Thank you for your question. After a year of dating, I would be prepared for the possibility that your boyfriend might get you something NICE (jewelry maybe?). So you have to ask yourself, "Would I be uncomfortable if he got me something really great and I didn't get him much at all?" That is a question only you can answer, but it is something to consider when you are getting your gifts.
If you do decide you want to get something great for him, I would still suggest getting a few smaller things along with it. One of the best things we can do for our significant others is to pay attention to what they like WITHOUT having to be told. Yes, your boyfriend may tell you that he would love some new golf clubs, but it would be much better if you figured something out for yourself by paying attention.
You know him better than I do, obviously, but I would also suggest something small that is fun and/or funny. If he's a little nerdy, for instance, you might get a funny book. If he's not the intellectual type, figure out some other way to put a smile on his face.
If you want to go the sentimental route, I always suggest thinking of something connected to your first date. If that doesn't really apply, at least try to hit on an inside joke or place that the two of you share. Gifts with a personal touch are often the best ones we can get.
Finally, you may give him something to make his life easier. Maybe a gift certificate for a massage, or even a corny gift coupon from you promising to do something for him that he hates doing. I'm a fan of spending money on experiences instead of "stuff" all the time. For the big present, it doesn't have to be a gold watch or something like that. Pay for something awesome he'd love to do. The key here is thoughtfulness. Thought and effort can often make someone happier than expense. If it was me, I might like a gift card to a nice restaurant where we dress up and go out and hit the town. Taylor it to what he likes.
Hope those ideas helped.
Good luck, and Merry Christmas!
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