We have so many distractions and so much technology available to us these days that it can be easy to lose focus. When it comes to social situations, this is not a good thing. This brings me to my tip for today:
MINGLE TIP #24: GIVE PEOPLE YOUR UNDIVIDED ATTENTION
I love the quote by Jim Elliot who said "Wherever you are, be all there." In social situations that means that we shouldn't let our minds or attention drift away from the person we are with. Here are some thoughts:
(1) Paying attention shows people you are talking to that you think they are important enough to deserve it. It doesn't matter if you are talking to a friend, potential date, professional person, or a stranger that you just met--you should give them your full attention. Imagine how great it would be if you could make everyone that you interacted with feel important. Now those would be some great social skills.
(2) Giving your undivided attention is about more than just putting away those cell phones. Cell phones are an obvious distraction, yes. Full attention, though, means much more than just eliminating the obvious distractions. Full attention also means that you are actually listening to what the other person is saying and staying engaged. They are all that you are thinking about in that moment.
(3) Don't let your eyes wander all over the room like you are looking for something better to pay attention to. Your mind shouldn't be wandering and thinking about your shopping list, where you are going to dinner that night, what game is coming on later, etc . Also, Show people that you care about what they are saying.
Giving your full attention consistently can be difficult to do if you aren't used to it, so sometimes you may need to remind yourself to focus. You will be glad you did, though. So, get in the habit of giving everyone that you talk to your undivided attention and your social skills will be off the charts!
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