Sometimes finding a person to date can seem like an impossible task. All the good ones seem to be taken. If you are a single person and you find yourself thinking this way, I have some good news for you--there are things you can do to help your chances of finding someone. This brings me to my tip for today:
MINGLE TIP #65: FISH IN THE RIGHT POND WITH THE RIGHT BAIT
(1) The most important thing you can do if you want to date is to get serious about the process. Be intentional about it. If you just go through the motions every day without really trying, then you probably aren't going to get very good results.
(2) Once you have decided that you do want to find someone, the next step is deciding what kind of person you are looking for. Then, go to places where that type of person goes. This may seem like common sense, but a lot of people don't seem to think about it.
Years ago I met a girl at a dance club and got along well with her. We wound up hanging out for a long time that night and seemed to be hitting it off. I felt like I was at my mingling best--I was doing so well (I thought) that I should be videoing this interaction to teach other people how it was done. The only problem was that when I went to ask for her number, she said that she didn't want to give it to me because her father was a preacher and she didn't want to meet a guy at a bar. Hmmm.
Maybe she was just making up a story to be nice, who knows. That is not important. I was just hanging out. But, I learned a valuable lesson that night--if you are looking for a certain type of person, then don't go for the needle in a haystack approach. Go where they are.
If you are looking for a partying type, go to the bars or clubs. If you want someone who likes to read, hang out at book stores. If you want a lawyer or politician, go to the reptile section at the zoo (just kidding!). The idea here is to go where the kind of people are that you think you would like to date. Increase your odds of success. Then, once you get to these places, act like a person who belongs there. Be appropriate. If you are comfortable with yourself then you won't have to do any acting regardless of the situation.
Note: I am not saying that it is impossible to meet any kind of person any time or place. You may meet a NASCAR driver at the grocery store for all we know. My point is to give yourself the best chance for success possible and go where the odds are best.
*Follow me on Twitter @TheMingleMaster
***Don't miss a post. Get free email updates below.
AS FEATURED ON: