Good manners seem to be less and less common these days. For whatever reason, people seem to be more rude, selfish, and unaware of people around them than ever before. If they are acting this way toward you in social situations, you should not let them get away with it. That brings me to my tip for today:
MINGLE TIP #84: DON'T PUT UP WITH DISRESPECT
I think that a lot of times people aren't even aware that their manners are bad. They either have never been taught any better or they have never been held accountable for their bad behavior. Many would improve themselves in this area if only they knew how. This is one of my inspirations for writing these posts.
If someone wants to date you, be your friend, or even just keep your attention at a social function, there are a few things that you may not want to let them get away with. Here is my list of no-nos (feel free to make your own):
(1) Insulting you in front of other people. Ouch. Don't be a chump and sit there and take it like a whipping post.
(2) Talking about you behind your back. I am not one to cause drama over people talking about me behind my back. I won't fight you over it. I just won't be hanging out with you anymore.
(3) Canceling plans with you frivolously. Sometimes there are very good reasons for changing plans. Sickness, work, emergencies, even getting a last minute chance for a date are all legitimate reasons for canceling. That is not what I mean here. I am talking about frequently and casually cancelling plans for frivolous reasons. Say what you mean, mean what you say.
(4) Never returning your calls/texts. I wrote an entire post recently on phone manners. Respect applies there too. You don't have to be the text police and demand that you get immediate answers all the time. Just don't leave people hanging forever.
(5) Calling you stupid or treating like you like you are inferior. I don't think so. Oh no you didn't.
I am not suggesting that you pitch a fit or make a big deal when someone disrespects you. I am simply suggesting that you might want to consider ending their chances of being around you. Don't let them get away with it. Whatever the social situation may be (even dating), life is too short to have to deal with rude people. Calmly let them know you don't appreciate their behavior and hope they change it. If they don't, they aren't worth your time.
Maybe you have a different list of things that you won't stand for. That is up to you. Whatever you do, though, don't let people get away with disrespecting you.
UPDATE: Look for early signs of disrespect. Fakeness in the early stages of dating is so common it's almost a cliche. People can often pretend to be respectful for at least a little while as they attempt to win you over. If you notice that they aren't even trying to be respectful early on, though, look out. It is probably a sign that things will get worse later. Do yourself a favor and kick them to the curb.
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