If you have been reading this blog at all, you know that my number one rule of good mingling is to have a casual, "hang out" mindset. Since this is the most attractive attitude that you could have yourself, it makes sense that you should also be looking for that same mindset in other people. That brings me to my tip for this week:
MINGLE TIP #9: TRY TO MINGLE WITH PEOPLE WHO HAVE A "HANG-OUT" MINDSET THEMSELVES
People are just more fun to be around when they are comfortable with themselves. The ones who are uptight, cranky, fake, stuck up, gripey etc. are just not very attractive (no matter how good they may look). If your goal is to have a fun, enjoyable life, you probably should not be giving these types very much attention. Life is too short.
Here are some thoughts:
(1) Don't stay around if you realize that the person you are talking to has a negative, icy or disinterested vibe. Find a way to politely excuse yourself. Definitely don't do something to try to make them change their opinion of you. Who cares. Get out of there quickly. There is a good chance the next person will be better anyway.
(2) Don't get too caught up with trying to win someone over just because they look good. There are plenty of quality people out there. Good looks alone should not be enough to win your attention and/or affection. If good looks are all that a person has going for them, they definitely aren't worth the time.
(3) Don't try to convince someone to like you. Ugh. This is where a lot of people go wrong. They get their heart set on winning someone over, no matter what it takes. When it doesn't work, they just try harder. Instead of excusing themselves from the person's unpleasant company, they stick around hoping to melt the ice. Terrible. Have some respect for yourself. If it is clear that someone doesn't like you, get over it and move on.
Many people often mistakenly think that when they don't get along with someone that the problem is them, when it actually could be the other person. Or it could just be that the two of you don't connect. So look for and focus on the people who actually do like you and get along well with you, and let the cranky, rude, uptight ones hang out with their own kind. The rest of us aren't interested.
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