So Apparently my list of 101 Mingle Tips has not solved all of the dating and social skills problems in the world. There are still a lot of lonely, poorly mannered, and socially uncomfortable people out there. So here I am. Back with more tips for you, as I update my original posts. New information is below the original post.
Mingling should not be a competition between friends. There are plenty of fish in the sea for everyone. With this idea in mind, fellow minglers should always look out for each other. This brings me to my tip for today:
MINGLE TIP #92: BE A GOOD WINGMAN
If you want to mingle with class then you should be looking out for your single friends as well.
Here are some thoughts:
(1) Defer to your friend if it looks like he has a good vibe going with someone. Don't be the guy who sees your single friend chatting it up and tries to steal the person away with your own mingle skills. Shame on you. There should be a special place in mingle hell for people who do that kind of thing.
(2) Be complimentary of your friend. Compliment your friend to make him look good even if it means putting yourself down to do so. Be willing to sacrifice your own chances for the good of your mingling friend.
(3) Excuse yourself if it looks like your friend is doing well. If things are really looking good for your friend, find some excuse to get out of the group temporarily. Go to the bathroom, make a call, whatever. Let him get a chance to be alone with his good connection for a little while.
(4) Realize that what goes around comes around. Show your friend that you are willing to help and he will likely do the same for you later. The same goes if you are a jerk about it too.
So, don't forget to help your friends out when it looks like it might be "on" as they say in the old movie Swingers. Save the competition for the gym later. Don't worry, there are plenty of mingling opportunities for everyone.
Note: If you and a friend are both interested in the same woman, then it might get tricky. Just remember that this woman is probably not worth getting between the two of you, especially if she is someone that you have just met.
UPDATE: (5) Talk to her friends. Well meaning friends can often get in the way of a good mingle situation. They want to size up, distract, and often block any chances that a new guy may have with their friend. Also, if her friends get bored, they may drag her away before your buddy gets a chance to work his magic. A good wingman focuses on making sure her friends are distracted and/or having fun too. Do whatever you can to help your buddy have the best chance he can.
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