I am starting a new four-part series called "Mingle Tips A-Z." I am going to give a tip for each letter of the alphabet. Most of the topics will focus on dating, but many of them can be applied to social situations of all kinds as well.
THIS WEEK: A-G
A--Arrive early for parties. The idea that you should show up fashionably late is outdated. Arrive early (or at least on time) and talk to the hosts and see everyone as they come in.
B--Be casual at all times. This is my main rule of social skills. Have the casual mindset that nothing is really a big deal, even if you have to look formal or be serious for the occasion.
C--Choose your locations wisely when you want to try to meet someone. Go where the types of people are that you want to meet. Also, go to places where it would be easy to make casual comments to people and start conversations. This approach is often overlooked. A room full of attractive women does you no good if you can't easily talk to them.
D--Don't be too hyper or too high energy. Being hyper makes you look like a kid. Keep your liquid crack (sodas, coffee, etc.) to a minimum and be cool. Nobody likes a crack head.
E--Eliminate worry and negative thoughts. There are very few things that could possibly happen to you that would actually be a big deal. The people you are so worried about impressing likely won't be in your life for very long anyway. Even losing a job can be overcome. Toughen up.
F--Find a new hobby. Get out of the house. If your new hobby is reading or doing something on the computer, take your laptop or book and go somewhere. Quit being a hermit. Good grief.
G--Go to everything you get invited to. Sometimes things that don't sound very good turn out to be great. Be a social person.
Coming next week: H-N
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