So Apparently my list of 101 Mingle Tips has not solved all of the dating and social skills problems in the world. There are still a lot of lonely, poorly mannered, and socially uncomfortable people out there. So here I am. Back with more tips for you, as I update my original posts. New information is below the original post.
This one is obviously easier said than done. Fearing rejection seems like the natural thing to do. If you want to be a successful mingler, however, you absolutely must get over your fear of being turned down. There is no way around this. You don't necessarily have to reach a point of getting totally rid of the fear, but you can definitely get to a point where it doesn't stop you from taking action.
Since you are hopefully now following my #1 Rule for Mingling (have a "hang-out" mindset), rejection should eventually become easier to handle. Getting rejected for a request just to see each other again is much easier to take than getting rejected for a date that you dramatically went for the first time you met someone. Don't try to go too far too fast. Getting rejected for a casual request to talk again should not be the end of the world.
Will you get embarrassed or shot down eventually if you ask enough people for their contact info? Probably. So what....
UPDATE: As much as I like to downplay the significance of getting rejected, it is still a good idea to try to make it as unlikely as possible. Yes, we want to be casual about the risk of something not working out, but it is also a good idea to read body language and vibes before trying to get contact information. Always try to look for some encouragement before taking action.
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