(*New info in blue) So Apparently my list of 101 Mingle Tips has not solved all of the dating and social skills problems in the world. There are still a lot of lonely, poorly mannered, and socially uncomfortable people out there. So here I am. Back with more tips to help you improve your communication, dating, and social skills so you can have a better life.
I have decided to give updates and new information on each of my original 101 Tips For Social Success With Class (that I originally posted about a year ago).
You can find the updates in blue at the end of the original post at the bottom of this page. Happy mingling!
One of my main pieces of advice is to be ready to mingle anytime, anywhere. As a result, we should always try to be dressed with this thinking in mind. You never know when and where you could meet someone that might be noticing how you dress. This brings me to my tip for today:
MINGLE TIP #35: MEN: WEAR COLLARED SHIRTS (AND OTHER FASHION TIPS)
(1) Wear a collared shirt as much as possible. T-shirts are fine for relaxing around the house. When you are out in the public, though, you should at least look decent. You never know when you might run into someone interesting and wish you were dressed a little nicer.
(2) Avoid wrinkles. I am not proud to admit this, but I am not even sure where the iron is in my house. That is how long ago it's been since I used it. But you can definitely pay a little attention to drying, hanging, and folding your clothes after you wash them. Too many wrinkles make you look sloppy.
(3) Avoid wearing the white t-shirt under the polo. 1986 called. It wants its wardrobe back.
(4) Don't wear white tennis shoes. White tennis shoes are for 1980s rappers and tennis players. If you are a tennis shoe wearer and you aren't exercising, do yourself a favor and find a little color.
(5) Keep your dress shoes clean/polished. What?! Two tips about shoes?! That's right, many women pay a lot more attention to your shoes than you might realize. Don't fight it. Accept it. But hey! My eyes are up here!
Don't misunderstand--I'm not saying you should be dressing up in your most formal clothes every time you go out to the grocery store. Far from it. That would be getting too close to the ugly "try-hard" approach to mingling that I criticize so much. I am simply suggesting that you prepare yourself for the possibility of meeting a stranger that might notice what you are wearing.
I know what some of you may be thinking--"Hey, the person I want will not care about such superficial things as what I am wearing. I should be able to wear whatever I want. Beauty is on the inside, buddy." All of that may be true. But why risk it? First impressions may not even always be conscious decisions.
So, if you are breaking any or all of these rules and wondering why you aren't making good impressions, it may be time to make a change. Don't feel bad. Just be aware of what you are doing...
UPDATE: (6) Don't be afraid to ask other people what they think of your style. I realize that everyone isn't a fashion expert. Most people can at least tell if something looks TERRIBLE, though. And most people are too nice to volunteer that information to a friend or acquaintance. I know there have been times that I wanted to tell someone I was with that their outfit didn't look too good. Make it easy on yourself and make a point to ask.
(7) Don't try too hard to copy other people's styles. There is nothing wrong with liking something you see on another person and buying it for yourself. Just be careful. Some things can look really good on one person and terrible on another.
8) Make sure your clothes are age appropriate. If you are 14 years old, collared shirts may not be cool to you. That's fine. Find a style that looks good for that age group. Also, if you are an older person, for goodness sake, don't try to dress younger than you are. That just makes you look silly.
Little things can make a difference. You don't have to be formally dressed 24/7. Just make an effort be at your best in whatever situation you find yourself. You will be glad you did.
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