The word "independence" can have a lot of meanings when it comes to dating. Independence can mean:
*not needing anyone's help financially.
*not letting anybody tell you what to do.
*not needing to date someone.
I have some thoughts about this topic that will hopefully be helpful whether you are in a relationship or just looking for one:
(1) Don't ever make a relationship mean everything to you. Being in a relationship that works is great, but it is not the end all, be all of existence. Learn to be happy and content whether you are with someone or not. This attitude will also help make you a more desirable catch when the time does come that you find the right match.
(2) Don't compromise your beliefs, morals, or standards to be with someone. Doing this kind of thing just screams out that you are D-E-S-P-E-R-A-T-E. Desperation is never the basis of a healthy relationship. Nobody is worth sacrificing your standards for.
(3) Don't settle for someone you aren't totally into out of fear of being alone. Don't give some jerk power over you just because you don't want to be single. Good grief. Have some respect for yourself.
(4) Watch out for bossy people. If someone that you are dating is getting bossy or pushy with you early on, then guess what--they are probably going to get even more bossy and pushy the further it goes. Even if you think you like the "take charge" type, too much of that in the beginning not a good sign.
(5) Don't go out of your way to try to prove to people how independent you are. Okay, so you don't need a man. We get it. This is one of those things that is better to think, but not necessarily say so much. Don't wear your independence like some kind of badge of honor. Just live it.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to find someone to date, marry, etc. Just don't let yourself become obsessed with it. Good luck!
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