My latest blog series will be exploring dating and relationship tips straight from the Bible. It has a lot to say about the topic. I figure that God is smarter than I am, so where better to look for inspiration? This is going to get real. And probably a little uncomfortable at times. Feel free to agree or disagree--and don't forget to comment.
*Note: If Bible study isn't your thing, check out one of my other series.
TIP #2: DATE SOMEONE WITH SIMILAR BELIEFS
"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers."--2 Corinthians 6:14
It is always a good idea to pay attention to the beliefs of the person you are dating or thinking about dating.
Here are some thoughts:
(1) Consider the possibility that your relationship might lead to marriage. Even if you aren't really thinking about marriage when you start dating someone, it's always smart to consider it a possibility. You never know.
(2) Don't date someone with the intention of changing them or winning them over to your beliefs. This is a bad idea. For one, you may very well end up causing conflict. Two, the reverse of your plan may happen and you may wind up having your beliefs weakened as a result of the influence of the other person. This is not a risk worth taking.
(3) Consider the impact your different beliefs would have on your future children. I know, future children may be the last thing on your mind when you are early in the dating stages. If you think you may want to be married one day, though, this is not a totally crazy thing to be thinking of.
(4) Don't over apply this rule. This verse is not saying that you should not associate or be friends with people who don't think or believe the same way you do. The focus here is strictly for marriage. Since there is at least a chance that dating can lead to marriage, be wise and start applying it to dating as well. Just don't apply this rule to everyone you meet.
(5) Make sure the person is authentic with their beliefs. There are plenty of people who say they believe in ______. Different beliefs may even just mean a big difference in how serious you are about the same beliefs. Be careful not to just believe someone who says they are whatever.
(6) If you are currently dating someone with drastically different beliefs than you, you might want to consider ending the relationship. Ouch! I know what you are saying: "Hey Mingle Coach, who do you think you are telling me to end my relationship?" I'm not telling you to do anything. I said consider it. The wisdom in the Bible is smarter than you are. There are more important things than dating relationships, especially ones that put your beliefs at risk.
(7) If you are already married to someone with different beliefs, be extremely careful. Don't let your beliefs get weakened just because your spouse disagrees with them or even thinks they are silly. Stay strong. Invite him or her to at least understand what you believe, but don't try to force it. That is never a good idea.
***Extra verse: "To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her."--1 Corinthians 7:12
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