My latest blog series will be exploring dating and relationship tips straight from the Bible. It has a lot to say about the topic. I figure that God is smarter than I am, so where better to look for inspiration? This is going to get real. And probably a little uncomfortable at times. Feel free to agree or disagree--and don't forget to comment.
*Note: If Bible study isn't your thing, check out one of my other series.
TIP #1: DON'T APOLOGIZE FOR SEARCHING
"It is not good for the man to be alone."--Genesis 2:18
Single people sometimes get embarrassed when others find out that they are looking for someone to date. You don't have to think that way. Here are some thoughts:
(1) Actively look. It's time to get serious about finding someone. Go where you will have the best chance of meeting people. Read my mingle tips. And whatever you do, don't just sit around waiting for fate to make things happen.
(2) Forget the myth that "The less you look the more likely you are to find someone." The reason this advice often seems true is because looking too hard makes you seem desperate. Looking desperate can severely hurt your chances for success. The problem here is with your approach, though, not just the fact that you are looking. Time to retire this classic advice.
(3) Don't worry about what others think. If people you know actually do give you a hard time for looking for someone to date, ignore them. Forget those chumps. You might even want to consider getting some new friends. There's no time to hang out with people who bring you down.
(4) Realize that God didn't intend for you to go through life by yourself. Life is much more enjoyable and easier to handle if you aren't alone (assuming you don't wind up with the wrong person).
(5) Socialize while you are searching. Be sociable while you are looking. Don't just mope around whenever you aren't dating anyone. Get out of the house. There is nothing that says you have to sit alone in your room every night until Mr. or Mrs. Right comes along.
(6) Don't take any person you can get just to avoid being alone. Stupid. Act like you have some sense and hold out until you find a good match. Being with the wrong person can be much worse than not being with anyone at all. Good grief.
***Extra verse: "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord." --Proverbs 18:26
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