Failure has a bad reputation. The fear of failing can keep some people from even trying to succeed at all. I say that not only should you not fear failure, but that you should embrace it. When it comes to dating and trying to meet people, if you aren't failing very much, then you aren't trying enough. My goal is to show people that failing is not that big a deal.
I decided to do a mingle experiment to explore this concept.
Ask for phone numbers from interesting women that I meet during a given day, until I get turned down.
For seven days in a row.
*I have to ask women for numbers that I sincerely want to see again. No forcing it.
*I have to ask someone I just met or don't know. No using a "ringer" that I already know.
*I have to keep going until I fail once per day, no matter how many times I am successful.
*I have to ask until I fail for seven straight days.
Note: I will not be discussing any successful attempts that I have during this process. This study is about the failures...
As usual I will be risking my own reputation to help and entertain people. Enjoy...
(Day 5--Failing To Fail)
Got out to a few places today. I'm not the type to sit around at home much, so I am usually out somewhere. And of course I will talk to people just about anywhere I go.
I talked to a few women when I was out today but none of them inspired me to try to get a phone number. My standards are high, but I am also looking for a connection. I don't force it.
There is nothing wrong with talking to someone and not wanting to see them again. A woman may have everything going for her but still not have a great vibe with you. There is more to finding a connection than just matching interests, or finding someone good looking. You have to actually find a person that you want to spend time with.
It is never a good idea to be totally committed to trying to get a phone number from someone just based on looks. That is asking for trouble. Be sure you always have walkaway power.
So, if you find yourself talking to me and I don't happen to ask for your phone number, don't be offended. I am sure you are a great person. I am looking for a connection, not just a good resume.
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