Let's face it -- there are scary people everywhere. No matter where you go, at some point you will probably run into people who have either been in jail or who belong there. Maybe it is someone shopping next to you at the mall. Maybe it is the driver who cut you off in traffic on the way to work this morning. This is a reality of life.
Since there are so many scary people out there, you have a choice to make. You can either be scared of them and lock yourself in your room or you can not let the fear of them paralyze you. This brings me to my tip for today:
MINGLE TIP #66: DON'T BE AFRAID TO TALK TO STRANGERS
(1) There is nothing wrong with being safe and careful. I am not suggesting that you get reckless with this idea. It's probably not a good idea to go around picking up every hitchhiker with the hope that he may be your soul mate.
(2) Don't rule out the possibility of dating a stranger. Sure, dating someone you randomly meet is not the most common way of starting a relationship. A study in a Time magazine article claims that most couples are still meeting each other online, through friends, at church, at work, etc. This does not have to mean that those have to be the only ways you meet someone, however.
Plenty of happy couples in the history of the world have met because one of the people was brave enough to start up a conversation with a stranger.
(3) Leave yourself open to meeting someone new. Don't automatically put up a shield when a stranger makes a throwaway comment to you at the grocery store. Be open. Talk to people wherever you find yourself. If you find that you have a good connection with someone (or at least see a possibility), don't be afraid to set up a time to call, email, or meet again. Take it extremely slow if you want to. Just don't rule out the possibility.
Note: I understand that many people have had bad experiences dealing with scary people and may have even had a traumatic experience at some point. I realize that it may be harder for them to not be afraid of strangers. Like I said, there is nothing wrong with being safe and careful. Don't be stupid about it. Just don't feel like you have to automatically rule out someone just because you don't know them. Take a small risk and get to know someone new in a safe way.
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