Mingle With Class - (Tip #20) Seek Out Strong Character In Your Dates (and other dating tips) [UPDATE!]
(*New info in blue) So Apparently my list of 101 Mingle Tips has not solved all of the dating and social skills problems in the world. There are still a lot of lonely, poorly mannered, and socially uncomfortable people out there. So here I am. Back with more tips to help you improve your communication, dating, and social skills so you can have a better life.
I have decided to give updates and new information on each of my original 101 Tips For Social Success With Class (that I originally posted about a year ago).
You can find the updates in blue at the end of the original post at the bottom of this page. As usual, please send me your questions and comments and let me know how I can help you. Happy mingling!
There are many things that can get our attention when considering people to date. Good looks, popularity, money, sense of humor, etc. are on many people's list of requirements.
There is nothing wrong with having any of those things be the reason that we first talk to people. This blog is about reality, not fairy tales or unrealistic expectations. So, yes, none of the things I listed are bad reasons to be initially interested in someone. When it comes to making a decision to actually date a person, though, there is definitely one thing that should always be considered. That brings me to my tip for today:
MINGLE TIP #20: SEEK OUT STRONG CHARACTER IN YOUR DATES
Once you think you might want to consider dating someone, it is a good idea to start trying to get a read on the strength of the person's character. If you are only dating people because they are good looking, popular, rich, funny, etc. then it will eventually get old. There has to be more. So be wise and get to know them on a deeper level before you let it get all the way to the dating stage. You will be glad you did.
Note: Of course, if you want to attract someone who has good character, it's probably a good idea to work on having good character yourself. If you don't have good character of your own then you likely won't have much of a chance with someone who does.
UPDATE: (1) Good and bad character are even easier to spot now that digital forms of communication are getting more and more popular. Yes, people can still fake being nice in the digital age. But there is something about it that seems to shine a spotlight on peoples' true character. Keep an eye on the way people you are dating (or thinking about dating) treat you when they communicate with you. Do they take you for granted? Are they rude? Do they get bossy or overly demanding? Phone communication has a way of intensifying both good and bad qualities in people.
So keep your eyes open. Don't just let yourself be wooed by those good looks and charming words. Keep an eye open for great character as well and you will have a much greater chance for happiness.
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