There is no person in the world that everyone likes.
If you can think of one, I'd like to know who it is. The rest of us have to live with the fact that no matter what we do, some people will like us and some people won't like us. Some people may even hate us. It's unavoidable. So what do we do with this information? How we handle it is actually the key to being relaxed in any social situation. Here are some thoughts:
(1) Don't try to make people like you. Trying too hard makes you want to do anything you can to win people over. This might include being fake, being overly nice or peppy, or even sacrificing your moral standards. It's not worth it. Be yourself and let people think what they want.
(2) Don't stress out or worry about the possibility that people may not like you. You already know there is some chance that this is going to happen anyway, regardless of what you do. Don't make it a big deal. It won't be the end of the world if everyone doesn't love you.
(3) Try to figure out as soon as possible if you click with someone. You can usually get an idea about this pretty quickly. I'm not saying that it is impossible that someone won't eventually warm up to you. Just don't spend too much time or effort hoping that it happens.
(4) Spend as little time as possible with people who don't like you. Breaking this rule is one of the biggest mistakes that people make in social situations. When it seems like someone doesn't like them they feel like they have to ramp up their efforts to try to be liked. This often just makes it worse. Good grief. Have some respect for yourself. Why waste time on people who don't like you?
So, when you are meeting new people, there is no need to freak out about whether they like you or not. Just talk to them and see how you get along. If you get along, great! If not, that's how it goes. No big deal. This approach can eliminate a lot of stress and worry and allow you to relax when you are meeting people. You are free to just be yourself and see what happens.
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