Sometimes the dating game can bring out the worst in us, especially early on in the process. If we aren’t careful, we can get so caught up in it that we end up sacrificing character, class and integrity. It doesn’t have to be this way.
Here are 10 keys to keeping your self respect when approaching people for dates (regardless of how things turn out):1. Don’t go overboard during the introduction.Somewhere along the way, the myth was started that the best way to get a date was to make a dramatic production when you introduce yourself. A clever line, a staggering compliment, or some other song and dance seemed to be required for any chance of success. This is simply not true.
Making a big deal out of your approach just adds pressure to the situation and makes you look like a try-hard. Making a casual throwaway comment and finding a way to start a conversation is a much better starting point.
2. Become an expert at reading signals of interest or disinterest.Once you have figured out a way to get a conversation going, the next step is to pay attention to the reaction. If the person you are talking to seems disinterested or negative, chances are that you are probably better off just moving on. Waiting for a good vibe before trying to take things further will improve your odds of success (and confidence) dramatically.
3. Avoid getting your heart set on a specific person.Sometimes two people are just not a good connection. So, instead of banging your head against the wall and failing and failing with the same person, just chalk it up to a bad connection and move on. No big deal.
4. Don’t beg.Be very careful about being too persistent when someone turns you down. Begging is definitely not the answer. Every now and then you may be able to wear a person down into going out with you, but more often than not you are just going to make yourself look foolish by not taking “no” for an answer.
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