A common piece of dating advice these days is to not take "no" for an answer. "Persistence is the key", they say and "no means yes." This can be very bad advice in some situations.
MINGLE TIP #50: TAKE "NO" FOR AN ANSWER
(1) Sometimes the vibe is just not there. Forcing things when there is clearly no connection will often do no good whatsoever. Don't feel the need to try to win over every woman that you talk to. This will often just cause frustration. Sometimes it wouldn't make any difference no matter what you did anyway. Also, this approach makes it too easy to have a pass/fail mindset that will put too much stress on your interactions. There is nothing wrong with recognizing when to cut your losses and give up.
(2) If you don't get an obvious "no" when asking someone out, that can change things. In these cases, I recommend giving it two or three tries before giving up on someone. Some people are so afraid to just be honest and turn a person down that they beat around the bush and are not totally clear about their lack of interest. Some may just not communicate well. If they have a complaint about you being persistent and trying a couple of times, then they can blame themselves for not being more clear from the beginning.
*Exception to the rule. An exception to this tip is if you are feeling such a strong vibe that you feel compelled to ask until you are completely shut down. You feel like you just have to be absolutely sure that you have tried everything you can. I have felt this way before. Just make sure you don't follow this strategy on a regular basis, or you will get a lot of people mad at you.
UPDATE: (3) Taking "no" for an answer means that you are taking people at their word. Some people may say no or play hard to get as some kind of game. This is probably a good type of person to avoid. If they didn't mean for their "no" to really mean "no" then they are the ones who made the mistake.
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