Approaching someone you don't know is a hard thing to do. A lot of men understandably struggle in this area. The first key to a successful approach is coming up with a good reason to say something. This brings me to my tip for today:
MINGLE TIP #57: EAVESDROP ON CONVERSATIONS
(1) Eavesdropping on people in public is a great way to start a conversation. If you are at a party or crowded situation you can strategically and casually place yourself within listening distance of interesting looking people. Book stores, coffee shops, malls, etc. also make it easy to position yourself near people without looking suspicious. Just be ready to make a comment if you hear a possible opening. You may only get one chance.
If you overhear someone having a light and fun conversation, then feel free to jump in with a comment. Just use your common sense and don't get involved if they are talking about something serious or personal.
(2) Don't think you have to come up with a dramatic conversation opener. Making a big splash from the beginning is not necessary. The key is simply to look for a possible casual comment to break the conversation barrier. After that the conversation will either continue naturally or run its' course quickly. No big deal either way. You don't have to start every conversation you have with a woman you may like by saying how beautiful she is or something big and impressive. Casual is the best way to go in most cases.
Note: There is a possibility that the person that you have eavesdropped on is annoyed by you entering the conversation. If that seems to be the case, be ready to excuse yourself quickly and move on. If they really want the conversation to be private, though, they shouldn't have been talking about it so loudly in public!
UPDATE: (3) Sometimes it can be tough to get close enough to someone to eavesdrop well. Don't let yourself fall into stalker mode. Just look for opportunities to make casual comments when you are around groups of people.
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