One of the biggest obstacles for a lot of men who want to talk to women in public is that they are afraid of what it might look like to people who overhear what they are saying. They think that it would be a major embarrassment if someone thought that they were hitting on her. This brings me to my tip for today:
MINGLE TIP #59: DON'T BE AFRAID TO MINGLE IN FRONT OF OTHERS
If you follow The Mingle Master way, then you can learn how to be at ease talking to women whether there are people around or not. If you have the "just hanging out" attitude, then you won't really be doing anything all that dramatic anyway. Even if you eventually ask for her phone number, you aren't doing anything that should deserve embarrassment. Maybe she will say yes and give you her number, maybe she won't. It's no big deal either way. You are just two adults having a conversation.
So, feel free to mingle away, men, and don't let the fact that there are people around (of either sex) stop you from starting a conversation with an interesting person. If you have trouble doing this, you might want to practice just making one or two throwaway comments to women in groups for a little while and end it at that. Then work your way up to having longer conversations. However you want to go about it, don't feel like you have to apologize for talking to a woman in public.
UPDATE: There are two main reasons that people are afraid to mingle in front of other people: fear of failure and fear of embarrassment. If you can figure out a way to keep your conversations classy, you really don't have much to be afraid of. Succeed or fail with dignity and you can feel good about yourself either way.
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