If you are a single person and you don't want to be single, there is one thing that you should learn to deal with above all else--failure. This leads me to my tip for today:
MINGLE TIP #99: INCREASE YOUR FAILURE RATE
Increasing your failure rate doesn't necessarily mean that you want to fail every time. If you are doing what I recommend and having a "just hanging out," casual attitude then you can't really fail anyway in the big picture. What I am talking about is putting yourself in situations where being unsuccessful is an option and having no fear about it.
Hear are some thoughts:
(1) Don't be afraid of rejection. Failure is very different from rejection. Remember, all you are doing is looking for a good vibe or connection. Like I said in an earlier post, Rejection isn't really even a possibility. You may fail at finding a connection, but so what. Don't take it personally.
(2) Realize that if you aren't failing on a regular basis, then you probably aren't being bold enough. Nobody is successful 100% of the time. I don't care who it is. Take a risk every now and then and don't be a wuss who plays it safe your whole life.
(3) Prepare yourself mentally for failure before it happens. Being bold means that failure will be inevitable at some point. Expect it. Normalizing failure and expecting it to occur every now and then makes it much easier to be casual about it when it does happen.
(4) Invite failure in more areas than just dating. Inviting failure can be beneficial in many more areas than just dating. Very few people become successful at anything without failing a few times first. Politics, business, sports, and many other things lend themselves to learning from failure. So, don't fear it. Learn from it. Embrace it.
So there you have it. You really have two choices. Either A) play it safe and don't try to do anything that has a risk of failure or B) take a risk or two and be prepared to have it not work occasionally. Life is too short to play it safe all the time, my friends. Let's not be afraid to put ourselves there.
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