So Apparently my list of 101 Mingle Tips has not solved all of the dating and social skills problems in the world. There are still a lot of lonely, poorly mannered, and socially uncomfortable people out there. So here I am. Back with more tips for you, as I update my original posts. New information is below the original post.
You may think that dating people with great looks, status, power, etc. would be great. These people will eventually get boring, though, if they don't have a great personality to go with those things. Probably sooner than later. At some point, just sitting around and enjoying each others good looks will get old. There has to be something else there to make it worthwhile. This brings me to my tip for today:
MINGLE TIPS FOR MEN #10: BE FUN BUT DON'T BE A CLOWN
Here are some thoughts:
(1) Don't just rely on your great looks to get dates. Good looks do help when it comes to getting dates, of course. However, there are plenty of good looking but lonely people out there. Why is that? Because looks alone only go so far. You still have to have something else going for you to make it last.
(2) A person who is a little less good looking but a lot more fun will generally be more popular. Being comfortable, relaxed and fun goes a long way. You can't do much to change your looks, anyway, so spend your energy fixing things you can control.
(3) Different people may have drastically different opinions about what fun is. If you are looking for people to date and/or hang out with, it is a good idea to find out what fun really is for people you meet. It's not the same for everyone. Here are a few examples of things that some people think are fun:
*Jumping out of airplanes
*Making silly jokes
*Talking about science
You may look at this list and think that some of those things would be fun, and some would be terrible. Some of them would definitely not be fun for me. That is why you need to use your mingling skills to find out what people like and who would be the best types for you to hang out with.
(4) Don't try too hard to be fun. The reason that I say to not be a clown is because you don't want take this idea too far. Remember, you don't want to be a try-hard, either. If you go all out to try to be entertaining, then you will look like you are trying hard to impress. This is something that you definitely should avoid. So make sure to have fun yourself, and others will likely see you as being fun as well. Just don't let yourself be a dancing monkey.
UPDATE: (5) Don't worry about someone not liking your sense of humor. A lot of men walk on eggshells being afraid that someone may not like their sense of humor. Boooo. Be yourself. Joke how you like to joke. If you find out that the person you are with doesn't like your style, hang out with someone else. Trying to change or hold back your personality will only make you miserable in the long run. Life is too short for that.
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