I decided to do a mingle experiment to explore this concept.
Ask for phone numbers from interesting women that I meet during a given day, until I get turned down. For seven days in a row.
*I have to ask women for numbers that I sincerely want to see again. No forcing it.
*I have to ask someone I just met or don't know. No using a "ringer" that I already know.
*I have to keep going until I fail once per day, no matter how many times I am successful.
*I have to ask until I fail for seven straight days.
Note: I will not be discussing any successful attempts that I have during this process. This study is about the failures...
As usual I will be risking my own reputation to help and entertain people. Enjoy...
(Day 2--The Marriott Hotel)
Today was a great day to get outside and enjoy the warm weather. I hung out a little during the afternoon and decided to go downtown and get some walking in. They say that walking is great exercise and that it will get you in shape, but I think this has to be bogus. Everyone walks. Everyone is not in shape. But that is a discussion for another type of blog.
So, of course after I walked for a while I needed a break. After all, I am no Olympic level speed walker or something. So I looked around for the nearest air conditioned establishment and noticed a Marriott hotel. I decided to go in and sit for a minute. Maybe watch some sports.
When I walked in I saw an interesting looking, possibly age appropriate woman working at the front desk. I sat down for a couple of minutes and restored my freshness, and then went up to the desk to try to start a conversation.
I got a couple of words in when a guy came up to the desk and asked to check out. Who does this guy think he is? Doesn't he see that I am trying to get something going here?
The guy talks to this woman for a few minutes and seems to know her. They joke back and forth and I see that she has a good sense of humor (always a plus). I think I hear her talking about someone coming to see "us" at her apartment, which is never a good sign. There is no 100% guarantee that the roommate is boyfriend, though, so I decide to investigate.
The guy eventually leaves and I talk to the woman for a few minutes and decide to ask to see her sometime. The woman says that her boyfriend doesn't like her doing that kind of thing. I say that this is a good reason.
One of my goals for this experiment is to show that failure is not a big deal. After I found out that the woman had a boyfriend, I didn't feel awkward or stupid. I talked to her for a few more minutes and then left. No big deal.
Do whatever you can to stay casual in these situations. If a woman agrees to see you again, it's no big deal. If she doesn't agree to see you again, that's no big deal either. Don't miss out on great chances because of fear of failure.
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